The Meaning of Life, Poker…and this blog.

As my previous post touched upon the psychology of poker, it reminded me of why I wanted to set up this blog and the sort of things that I would like to explore. And if someone – anyone! – comes along for the ride and finds something of interest then all the better…

I guess I would like in my own humble way to explore some of the deeper lessons, thoughts and revelations that a voyage through the poker universe has already opened up to me. And hopefully to some of you too. A kind of commonplace blog with some of the odds and sods that have fascinated me along the way. With a touch of psychology here, a bit of philosophy there…even some theology and esoterica thrown into the mix to make for something a little more quirky, a little more off the wall.

Which means rather than discussing when to play AQo or how to size our bets – however important those things surely are! – in this particular blog, I am more interested in looking at what poker does to us as human beings. How does it resonate with us in the challenges and obstacles of life outside? Does it make us better people? If poker is the game of skill that we insist it to be, how does it affect us psychologically, emotionally, spiritually….and if you want to join me in going that little bit further and getting really deep here, then how about we ask those biggy questions that maybe we don’t always have time for – What is the meaning of poker…if of course there is a meaning! Although I am guessing that if like me, poker has become a huge part of your life then you would agree that if it doesn’t have meaning then God knows what we are doing spending so much of our time on something meaningless.

No, I will strongly preempt anything I might say with the firm affirmation that yes, poker does have meaning. Or as I always say, poker is my life now. And life is poker…

Or to use a concept that the rabbis of Israel were fond of in the time of the Temple of Jerusalem – for a devout Jew there was only two states of being…at the Temple and on the way to the Temple. Which meant that everything that happened on the way would essentially be seen through the lens of the question – how does this help for the supreme quest? What does this mean? Is this useful? So if you’ll forgive me transposing that in a potentially sacrilegious way to our own beloved poker, then you could argue that for the committed and indeed devout poker player, there are only two states of being for us….at the poker table and on the way to the poker table.

And I would argue without doubt that since starting to learn and play poker, I have not only learnt many valuable lessons about psychology, intelligence, rational thinking, logic and my own emotions – ahhh the joys of tilt!! – but that working with those many challenges thrown up by the game make me a better man. And will continue to do so. For I would go as far as to say that the qualities of a good poker player are qualities that we want to see at large in human society. Big statement huh? Only if I were not talking in the main to poker players maybe. Cos surely, here of all places I’m preaching to the converted when talking to this flock, right?

And even if you don’t agree with the above assertion then you will surely agree with the bleeding obvious statement that it’s not easy. If there’s one thing that marks out the fool, it’s when he suggests that anything about poker is easy! For all of those qualities that I praise above are in a sense utterly unnatural. Only a weird and wonderful lucky few are innately born with those strange habits that make up the psyche and mentality of the the truly able poker player.

For as one of the great experts of poker psychology, Dr Alan Schoonmaker writes in The Psychology of Poker the mentality of a successful poker player – the classic TAG style – is not a natural human attribute. Aggression is of course part of our primordial DNA but the ability to switch that aggression on and off in a very controlled and tightly focused way is not something that is naturally present in human beings. It has to be learnt, nurtured and trained and does not come easily. As Dr Schoonmaker suggests, the only people who display it in their regular life are elite soldiers, police and other professions where long periods of calm are momentarily interspersed with explosions of sometimes violent reaction.

Or as he memorably puts it, a successful poker player must become the stone cold killer. For presumable a professional assassin would make a fine shark. Although if there do happen to be any hit men hanging around on this site, let me just say you’re very welcome here….just don’t come and play at any of my cash games.

And aye, there’s the rub – one of the wonderful contradictions that I love about poker: the fact that on the one hand we will argue the virtues of learning this game as a way of improving ourselves while on the other, we accept that our goal is to become stone cold assassins who annihilate anyone who stands in our path.

Which is why I always take as my role model the Japanese samurai as the perfect example of how those two states coexist. The way that a samurai would strive to be a refined, civilised, educated warrior – constantly improving himself as a human being while also always being ready in an instant to call upon that wisdom and judgement in the service of brute force and aggression. Surely the ideal template for the perfect poker player?

And then there is all the other bodies of wisdom that will speak to our experiences in poker. Wisdom that belongs to what we sometimes clumsily refer to as the “Eastern Traditions”. Teachings about the nature of action and of not attaching ourselves to the results of those actions but rather focusing on doing the right thing. Accepting that in the long term, everything works out how it should and how – contrary to what those bad beats will make us feel – that there are certain laws of the universe that cannot be denied. Even if you are a fish who insists on playing J2o to the river and hitting your full house! The Buddhists will say “Karma is.” to which the poker player will reply “EV is.” 🙂

I was watching a video by Boomer (one of Pokerstrategy’s coaches) the other day and he spoke about his ‘favourite subject in the universe – awareness’ and it’s comments like that which I love as it’s the sort of thing that could come straight out of the mouth of a Buddhist monk or Hindu swami. Whether Boomer looks good in saintly robes sitting crosslegged on the top of a mountain is something that I will leave to the imagination of those who know him…

But this is a classic principle of the synchronicities that you will find in any moment of truth. And what boomer says, applies to any form of mind training just as much as to the specific example of poker. To be aware, to be fully present in the moment – that’s a vital foundation for any improved way of life. It is as a Catholic theologian once called it, realising the “the sacrament of the present moment.”

Or to put it in a more earthly way that will be familiar to us, as a billboard in Vegas once said, “You have to be present to win”.

Again, that’s the sort of message that would have the Buddha nodding strongly in agreement…while he riffled his chips 😉

Anyway, that’s a taster of the sort of thing that gets my mind working. Phew! Yeah, who said that less is more huh?! So, I understand that it’s not necessarily a take on the game that’s shared by everyone but if you’ve read this far – and well done Sir/Madam, you’ve already earned karmic merits just for that! – and it’s the kind of quirky talk that you like then maybe now and then we can explore this sort of thing a little further together.
The Buddha always said that one of the essential things for the path is gathering together noble friends to walk with you. And I am sure that if Lord Gautama had happened across his local cash game, that’s exactly what he would have said as encouragement to the players.

So if it’s a journey that you fancy joining me for from time to time, I’d be happy to have the company while I witter on about whatever weird philosophical thoughts that occupy me at the time.

In the meantime, I hope that you go out there and be the civilised, refined, calm….and utterly ruthless killers that you are called to be!

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2 thoughts on “The Meaning of Life, Poker…and this blog.

  1. Aaaah the delight of reading my own thoughts, only just better expressed.

    I absolutely agree with you on every plane (or almost, continue reading…).
    And yes, I’m greatly fascinated (and not at all conflicted) at the contradiction of the perfect poker player personality.

    I must admit I’ve always been on the very cold side of approach when it comes to… everything, and that always helped me, by empowering my rational capacity and shutting down or avoiding altogether all the noxious irrational emotions that mine reasoning and… sanity.

    So, after all I’m not surprised that during my long journey, the poker world was brought to my attention and captured my interest.
    My experience however may differ from yours, as I’ve never played it for just pure enjoyment, but started from my very 1st hand with the goal of becoming a professional and living off of it (still striving and in a particularly difficult period…)

    Despite that fact, I don’t see how ANYONE couldn’t improve as a human being by trying to get better at poker.
    It’s a game that wants to see you right in your inner self, and that exposes your weaknesses in a way that “stabbing a knife in an open wound” becomes bliss in comparison.

    So if you want to survive, you HAVE to fix them and work on them.

    And you can easily tell by how successful poker players live their lives (the real successful players, not the ones on TV, with few exceptions), that the qualities you need to be a good poker player are the same ones that you need to be a good human being.

    Physical preparation, good scheduling, balance between theory and practice, well prepared rational thinking, complete self-control etc etc etc…

    When it comes to the meaning, I become the stone cold killer, and I assassinate your point of view.
    In my opinion, there is no such thing as “meaning” in what we do. Especially if we are talking about a game invented by human beings to have fun with other fellow human beings.
    Does this mean everything is a waste of time and we all should just deprive ourselves of the material pleasures of life and wait for our (yours/theirs, I don’t believe in after-life) idea of heaven? Yyyyyyyyyeah right… No. Absolutely not.

    I believe that we CREATE “meaning” in everything we put our full body in.
    Our minds, our “hearts”, everything.

    It can come out of everything, if one puts enough attention and thought into it, as everything can be inspiration to advance in our journey in a better way for both ourselves and others.

    So is poker excluded from this? Hell no.
    Does poker provide enough stimuli to build enough upon it to be called meaningful?
    Well, read up and down and find your obvious answer.

    I deeply apologize for my incomprehensible language and way of expression, I had great difficulties.
    Feel free to ask for clarifications.

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  2. Wow…it doesn’t matter what level of writer you are, whether it be total amateur or professional, when you inspire an insightful and well-thought out response like that, you can feel nothing but utter pleasure. I am so flattered to think that my post should be so thought provoking and now you’ve given me much to chew on and consider myself!

    Thank you for that and I don’t know about asking for clarifications…I think I will be asking for further philosophical musings! Wonderful stuff….

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